Men are hurt just as much by break ups as woman are. They may be unable to display their emotions as openly, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have them. Not only this, but a failed relationship can be quite a blow to a man’s pride as well as his heart. Here’s some ideas for getting over the heartache.

Prior to getting involved with your girlfriend, you had friends and interests that you spent time on. Now is a great time to get back into things you might have given up. Shoot some hoops, play some tennis or golf.

They are your companions from your rowdiest and solemn times. Just imagine life without your friends. They really are an awesome way to reduce any hurt feelings and hasten your recovery process.

Don’t mope around. Keep busy. Do things you didn’t have time for before your break up. Try joining a gym or getting involve in community or charity work. If you always wanted to learn to scuba dive, now is a great time. Don’t give yourself too much time to consider the hurt you feel. Do things that give you satisfaction and a feeling of accomplishment.

Remember that there are more to life than her, and your world will not stop without her. Whenever possible do things that you have been doing normally. Breaking up and not being able to get over her is not a valid reason to stop your wheels from turning.

Don’t think that just because you broke up with your girlfriend it’s the end of the world. It’s not. There are lots of appreciative ladies out there and one is just waiting for you. Don’t lose your perspective. If the relationship was intended to be it would have weathered any storm.

You can start over. Just because this relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean you won’t find the perfect partner later on. Don’t dwell on her faults and what went wrong. Just think the very next time maybe it will go right.

Take the time to consider what may have gone wrong with your relationship in order to avoid making the same mistakes in another relationship. It may hurt, but these hurts happen to everyone regardless of gender. Don’t get angry or bitter, that will damage new relationships you may form.

Your friends and family will support your emotionally through the pain of your loss. Your friends can assist you get out and get on with your life instead of spending your time alone and unhappy.

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After only finding small success with these results they finally found that revolutionary breakthrough they were waiting for.  the only problem is, it’s technically illegal under the Geneva convention.

the treatment they have found has an astounding success rate, and involves depriving the patient of sleep for days at a time.  Every time the patient drops into a full sleep they are woken up after 4 minutes.  This treatment trains the body to go through the initial sleeping stage, where most insomnia sufferers have the most problems.  After this has been repeated over 40 times the patient is finally allowed to drop off

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Narration: Lynn Valentine is a chronic insomniac. It’s now 2:30AM and Lynn’s finally fallen asleep- but she’s in for a rude shock. She’s being woken up. Again, and again.

Lyn Valentine: I’m starting to get very tired now.

Narration: It looks like torture. But could this radical experiment, revolutionise how we treat insomnia? Lynn is one of 30% of Australians who suffer insomnia. For 20 years, her hours of darkness have been a waking nightmare.

Lynn Valentine: It takes me perhaps one to two hours to sleep and then I wake up a number of times in the course of a night for longish periods of time. So I might have an aggregate of only four hours or five hours sleep, but very very broken sleep. It’s difficult to concentrate the next day. You feel quite tired, irritable. It has a big effect on mood. So it creates problems, quite significant problems.

Narration: Lynn’s tried sleeping pills, but found them dangerously addictive. Now, she’s ready to try anything. She’s volunteered to test an extreme new experimental treatment, here at Flinders University. The clock’s about to start ticking on 24 hours of severe sleep deprivation.

“Just sit up for now, you’ll be fine. Now imagine that you’re lying at home, in your own bed.”

This room has no windows, no doors – no way of knowing how much time is passing. While she lies in isolation, the researchers monitor Lynn’s temperature, skin conductance, and brainwaves.

Dr Leon Lack: What we look at is specifically alpha waves which are the green ones, so when you actually fall asleep the alpha waves will drop off.

Narration: These measures will tell them if Lyn drops off.

Jonica Newby: What happens if she falls asleep?

Jodie Harris: If she does fall asleep, I’ll let her fall asleep for four minutes & then wake her up again. She gets four minutes at each trial

Jonica Newby: 4 minutes?
Jodie Harris: 4 minutes that’s all.
Jonica Newby: Isn’t that against the Geneva convention?
Jodie Harris: It does sound a little bit like torture I know.

Narration: And right now, Lynn’s got 24 hours more of being woken up to go. The idea for this therapeutic torment came from Professor Leon Lack. He’s head of the Sleep Research Laboratory, and over the years, he’d become frustrated with existing treatments for insomnia. The big obstacle to treatment is that insomniacs have lost the ability to fall asleep. Instead of feeling sleepy, they’ve come to associate bed time with being highly alert.

Dr Leon Lack: They’ll be tossing and turning getting anxious that they still have to wake up the next morning at say 7 o’clock, now it’s 1 o’clock now it’s 1.30 now it’s 2 o’clock. It means they’ll get less and less sleep the longer they’re awake. They get more anxious about that and that then reinforces that automatic arousal response.

Narration: For the last 20 years, the main therapy for insomnia has tried to re-train people to fall asleep quickly.

Dr Leon Lack: The instructions of that therapy are don’t go to bed till you’re really sleepy and if you don’t fall asleep quickly get out of bed again and go back to bed when you’re sleepy again.

Narration: The problem is, few people persevere. They have to do it by themselves, at home. And on cold winters night, especially, they struggle to drag themselves out of bed.
And the training takes at least four weeks to work. That’s because you only practice, or trial, falling asleep once per night.

Dr Leon Lack: That’s only one trial, only one trial to reverse this experience of years and years of having difficulty. It takes more than one trial. It takes you know 30 or 40 or 50 trials.

But suddenly, it struck Leon, there could be an answer. Might it be possible to run all 50 sleep training sessions in just 24 hours?

Dr Leon Lack: They would experience a lot of sleep deprivation across that one day, but they would get a lot of trials every half hour.

Narration: Excited by the idea, he decided to put it to the test. Lynn is now 15 hours into the gruelling regime Leon devised. The key is to let patients fall asleep, then quickly wake them up, and keep them awake, until the next sleep training attempt. So far, Lynn’s been woken up 30 times. Yet surprisingly, far from suffering, she almost seems to be enjoying it.

Lynn Valentine: If I can continue to fall asleep the way I am at the moment that will be quite wonderful.

Narration: Far from feeling tortured, says Leon, insomniacs can actually find this experience exhilarating. For the first time, they realise they can learn to fall asleep. At the beginning of the trial, Lynn was taking more than 20 minutes to fall asleep. Now she’s taking just a few minutes.

Dr Leon Lack: The way they feel is that sleep is something that they’ve lost. Now you know in a short period of time we’ve shown them that they in fact can fall asleep really quickly under the right conditions.

Narration: But by Sunday evening even Lynn is starting to show the strain.

Jonica Newby: Fed Up?
Lynn Valentine: Lying around for what must it be now a day and a half. But don’t think it’s much longer to go before I get to go to sleep.

Narration: Finally at 8:00PM, after nearly 50 wake-ups Lynn is allowed to drift off into her first deep sleep. It’s a relief for her, but for the research team, this is the exciting bit. So far, 17 people have been through the trial. Preliminary results show most of them have vastly improved sleep following the treatment. It’s early days. But Leon hopes this could be a genuine breakthrough.

Dr Leon Lack: This promises to be a long-term cure to insomnia so they can leave it behind and for the rest of their life they won’t be plagued with the daytime tiredness which they now experience.

Narration: Last night was certainly a breakthrough for Lynn. She slept uninterrupted through the whole night.

Lynn Valentine: :I had a very sound nights sleep it was lovely…..8 0r 9 hours…I haven’t slept this long since I don’t know when.

The important question to ask though is “Is this news useful?”

The answer I think is a resounding yes, since we have found one link to a degenerative illness that is barely understood by our scientists. Discovering the significant correlation between depression and Alzheimer’s could help us understand more about how it effects the brain, and how the may contribute to one another. There is however a chicken or the egg problem posed now. Does Depression help cause Alzheimer’s or the other way around?